I absolutely love hurting my boys, that's for sure. And Xander hurts so very, very prettily!

The very fact that Spike sees Xander's forgiving side really does show that they're family because Xander is endlessly forgiving of his "family" and really kinda petty and bitchy to everyone else. IN canon, he definitely treated Angel with the petty/bitchy side, so I'm enjoying twisting him around!